A popular way to create an intimate and special moment in your wedding ceremony is by writing your own vows. This is your chance to not only make a promise to your future spouse of all the things you vow to do in the life you’ll share together but remind yourself of the kind of husband or wife you are setting out to be. Your special day will go by so fast, and of the moments you hold onto and cherish, exchanging these vows with the one you love will be one of the easiest to remember as it tends to be one that means the most.
Once you and your partner decide to put your writing to the test and create your wedding vows, here are a few tricks to getting your best vows down on paper.
Regardless of the size of your wedding, planning one is no easy feat. With so much on your plate, you may find that something as important as deciding on the vows you will make to your significant other can sometimes fall by the wayside. Trust me when I tell you, don’t wait until the last minute. Grab some paper and a pen or open up the Notes app on your smartphone and just get started! Brainstorm what you want to communicate in your vows and start by jotting down any ideas that come to mind. Maybe talk to each other about the length of your vows so one person’s aren’t much longer than the others, and discuss anything else you want to be on the same page about beforehand.
Of course, the mere face of your beloved is enough to make you feel inspired and remove any writer’s block you may have, but then again, the Internet is here for a reason! Check out samples of other nuptials online through Google or Pinterest to get ideas. If you aren’t sure exactly how to say what you want, reading through a few examples of other vows may suddenly help it all come together!
Remember to be yourself.
You don’t have to suddenly jump into Shakespeare mode or pretend you’re the pastor of your church or the author of some romance novel just to write your wedding vows. So, snap out of it if you find yourself trying to channel someone else’s writing voice. Remember, you are going to be the one speaking these words aloud to your bride or groom, so you want to sound like yourself. If you tend to be a humorous couple, throw some sass and laughter points in there! If you are a couple who puts faith first, find a great piece of scripture to include that resonates with what you want in your life together.
Think about how you got here.
When two people get to the place in their relationship that you are, there’s a reason they made it there. Think back to all the steps along the way that got you to the incredible place where you’re about to become a married couple. Those special moments that guided you both and the little things that make you want to spend the rest of your life with that person are so important that including some of that in your vows can mean so much. If that person has always been there to support you in tough times, promise always to try to do the same for them or that you’ll always remind them how grateful you are for their support.
Look to the future.
When you close your eyes, what kind of life do you see with that person? Imagine the future with your better half and why it makes you smile. Think of what kinds of emotions and experiences you know you’ll have because you’re with that person. Despite all the things life can (and will) throw at you, what do you promise to be for them and remind them of as time moves on? Think about the exciting next steps of possible homes, career paths, children, travel, new traditions and all that you two dream about.
At the end of the day, it’s about two becoming one.
Don’t stress about the vows and remember to speak from your heart! You can write all the beautiful things down on paper you can think of, but remember that your wedding is about the two of you and the life you are starting together as one. Your vows can be the best love story you ever get to write because it’s yours!