Living in a society where we are so accustomed to sharing our lives on social media is a breeding ground for blurred boundaries when it comes to a bride and groom’s big day. Here are a few tips for making sure you avoid committing a major social media faux pas at the next wedding you attend – even if it’s your own.
Think Before Pressing Send
Brides and grooms pay hefty fees for professional photographers in order to ideally capture their dream wedding. If you were paying thousands of dollars on a wedding, wouldn’t you want to broadcast your favorite photos on your own terms? Many inexperienced wedding-goers or members of the wedding party often forget to hold off on posting ceremony or reception images and videos on social media platforms until after the bride and groom have done so first. Want to snap a quick selfie with your wedding date? There’s no foul play in posting an image of you and your date enjoying a glass of champagne as long as members of the wedding party aren’t lingering in the background. When in doubt, it might be best to ask the bride and groom for approval before posting any images to Facebook or Instagram if you’re uncertain. Most importantly, avoid posting any unflattering photos of the wedding party at all costs – a bad angle or a lazy eye is not how newlyweds want to document tying the knot.
Here Comes the Bride
Although the brand new dress you bought from Dillard’s to wear to your cousin’s wedding is gorgeous, it’s important to keep in mind that you are not the bride. No matter how stunning you and your date look in your wedding best, taking too many posed photos together, or constantly asking other guests to take photos for you, comes across as vain and self-absorbed. Although it’s totally normal to want to show off a new outfit or hairstyle, social media posts from your cousin’s wedding should center around your cousin and his or her spouse. You weren’t invited to outshine the bride, and social media onlookers are more interested in what the wedding party is wearing than the guests’ garb. Don’t worry – you’ll have your moment one day, so keep the Instagram posts modest in the meantime.
Don’t Spill the Beans
Couples send wedding invitations to guests for a reason. With venues varying in their capacity limits, along with couples’ personal preferences for the size of their weddings, not everyone is going to make the guest list. If you get an invite, fight the urge to share any details about the date, time and location of the wedding on any social media pages shared with the public. Distant friends or family members who didn’t make the cut might feel hurt or offended if they see invitees flaunting details of a wedding they won’t be attending. Be mindful of sharing your excitement online – you never know which spiteful ex-girlfriend or crazy aunt the bride and groom might be hiding their whereabouts from.
Hold My Drink
When there’s an open bar, wedding guests are encouraged to enjoy themselves. It’s acceptable to let loose with a few libations, but spare yourself (and the bride) the embarrassment and put your phone away if you’re having a little too much fun. The bride and groom don’t want to wake up the next morning to find their beautiful wedding reception portrayed as a college frat party all over Facebook.
Communication is Key
If you’re planning a wedding and are worried about the social media behavior of your guests and wedding party, don’t hesitate to communicate openly about your concerns. You’re more than welcome to request that wedding-related posts be kept to a minimum until you feel comfortable posting wedding photos and details first. After all, family members and friends attending the wedding ultimately want you and your fiancé to look back on your wedding fondly, and with no regrets.