Shopping for the Dress — Who to Take, Who to Leave at Home

Once you are engaged, one of the first tasks you’ll think about is shopping for your wedding dress. It is probably the most important fashion decision you will ever make, and you’ve undoubtedly been thinking about it for years. Strapless, ball gown, ivory or white, silk, satin or tulle? There are many things to consider before even stepping into a bridal boutique because the choices can be overwhelming.

Once you’ve thought about the styles you think are right for you, you need to consider who will accompany you on this very special outing! Everyone you bring will have an opinion, so make sure the people along for the ride are supportive and willing to let you make this decision on your own if that’s what you want.

Most people bring their moms, sisters, grandmothers, close female cousins, perhaps a best friend and sometimes the mother of the groom. Tradition keeps any males from coming along – most brides don’t want their future husbands to see their dress before the big day, and a growing number of brides don’t want their dads to see the dress early either. Besides, what do men know about wedding dresses anyway?

No matter whom you choose to bring with you, make sure those people will only enhance your day positively. You don’t want to bring your crazy aunt who puts a damper on everything or your sister who looks for any excuse to make fun of you. Your wedding is not just about that day itself – it is about the time between your engagement and wedding day when you get to focus on yourself and all the things you want for one of the most important events of your life.

You also do not need to invite everyone in your address book. If you only take your mom, that’s fine; if you only take a close friend, that’s fine, too. You know what is best for you, especially if you are paying for the dress yourself!

Don’t be afraid to ask for advice, either. Ask friends and family about what they did, who they brought and how they would change the experience they had to make it better. You’ll remember the moment you found the perfect dress for the rest of your life – so make it great!