Honeymooning: Two Perspectives

Honeymooning is a tradition that dates back to the fifth century when the first cycle of the moon was noted during the initial days of marriage. The practice of going on a romantic trip has been commonplace since the early 19th century. For many, the honeymoon is a given – a part of the wedding experience. For others, the honeymoon is optional. Two brides weigh in on the topic from their individual perspectives.

The Bride Who DID Go on a Honeymoon…


When we started the wedding planning, the honeymoon planning was just a part of it. We never discussed not going on one. We both put in a lot of research on different places to go. We set a specific budget, and in the end, it came down to where we could get the most “bang for our buck,” which was Cancun, Mexico.

Taking time to relax and de-stress after all of the wedding planning and getting some much needed alone time with my new hubby were the best parts of the honeymoon. Before the wedding, there is so much to do and so many people around constantly; it was so nice to get away from the real world for a little while!

My advice to brides and grooms? Consider the length of your honeymoon…we went for six days which was just long enough but not too long. We also went to an all-inclusive resort and had paid for it months in advance, so not having to worry about anything monetarily all week was awesome.

When discussing a honeymoon, there are a lot of things to think about. For instance, my husband and I purchased a house while we were engaged, so we did not have to worry about house hunting after the wedding. If we were under different circumstances, we might have decided to have a more budget-friendly honeymoon. But, every couple deserves some sort of “getaway,” even if it is just a long weekend in the mountains, beach or somewhere that is just a change of scenery. Trust me, I had a blast planning my wedding, but it was also so stressful! I am very grateful for that time I had to relax with my new hubby, and I think every other couple would appreciate it too no matter how much or how little the cost!

…And The Bride Who DIDN’T


My husband and I got married four years ago and made the joint decision to pass on a honeymoon. Why in the world would we skip a honeymoon, you ask? Two main reasons. First, we both cringed at the thought of spending thousands of dollars on an international trip. We are both big savers, and the thought of seeing this money go towards a down payment on a house was much more appealing for us. Second, we honestly aren’t big travelers. I’m not kidding when I say that “traveling” for us means making the 45-minute drive to Lake Norman…or, if we’re feeling extra adventurous, making the three-and-a-half-hour drive to Cherry Grove Beach for a long weekend.

Before you think we are too boring…we HAVE traveled a lot in the past. During the past nine years that we’ve been together, we’ve made trips to Riviera Maya in Mexico, Vinalhaven in Maine, several cities in Florida, Los Angeles and New York City (just to name a few). We thoroughly enjoyed all these trips, and I think that may have been an additional reason we didn’t think too much about skipping a honeymoon. We had already traveled together on planes, boats, trains and cars! A honeymoon would’ve been great of course, but we’ve already experienced traveling together many times.

The only negative of not going on a honeymoon was having to answer the question “where are you going on your honeymoon?” with “oh, we aren’t going on one.” Some may have thought that was crazy…but it was our decision! Neither one of us has any regrets. We had a large wedding, and it was extremely nice to go home and relax…without having to think about packing, catching a flight, etc.